Yet another great post - Slow down will ya? lol
.....there are those who’ll attach this notion of badness to the very core of who they are, and inadvertently step into an existence of anxiety, shame and feelings of inferiority.
I was lucky (sarcasm), because I grew up with a family telling me I that I was bad for pointing out facts. My family lived on emotional game playing, and lies, and facts were a bloody nuisance!
I took that to heart, and also had to deal with it.
It took a few years to realize that they were bunch of manipulative twats, and yes - I was better then them. (I mean that in a non ego way, honestly).
I now see myself as lucky, because of the very things I had to think through, and deal with - the guilt of not fitting into my own family expectations, and the shame of not towing the line.
It's one of those 'make you or break you', kinda things.
So going forwards into adulthood - I have zero guilt or shame for my life choices, with one main exception, which I might tel you about some time.
Okay, not 100% zero - but close enough as to make it so.
I do no intentional harm to anyone, and that's all that matters to me.
(minor infringements of the ethos do happen - but they are just that - minor)
I grew up having to sieve through those shitty emotions, and I've made sure not to execute the kind of actions, that lead to those emotions manifesting.
Actions of today that are honest of mind and heart, doesn't allow for the emotions of tomorrow to include guilt or shame.