Ultimately everything laying in the past or in the future is a narrative with the potential to be changed.
The past is the past and can't be changed.
You can deal with it, but not change it.
The future, of course, is down to yourself.
( I don't buy into postmodern 'reality is just narrative construct' - But that's a whole other philosophical discussion).
I'll go have a look at your post now....Happy to help.
(.....it takes a hell of a lot more than words, to scare me! lol)