RE: Love
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The title did it; I had to open the article and read it :)
So funny you had to mention that 'Love' is not the same as 'In Love'. Something that is 100% clear to me already from my early ages. I can still get very surprised when I see others making all sort of life-changing decisions together with their new partner (like moving to another town/city or even country, marriage, babies), very early in the relationship while the 'In Love' is very much at play. Call me a 'rational' thinking person, but in such phase, I don't want to make those decisions, it's simply too difficult to know if 'Love' for the other person is possible when being 'In Love'. Others (mostly women) think I'm too rational; I should follow my emotions more. They may be right, but I simply can't make such life-changing decisions when being 'In Love'. I see too many people struggling for long, after making such life-changing decisions while not applying some logic. They maybe in an unhappy relationship for years, sometimes even decades, because logic and rational was not applied, when it should've been.
There are different kinds of love:
You forgot the Love for Objects and Services! But ok, those are materialistic types of Love :) I know, I know: these types of Love will not provide long term happiness to people.
Somewhere-in-between love is more than friendship, less than romantic
I've several times experienced being in this situation with people. The other wanted more (everything) while I wanted everything as well, but wasn't able to accept certain characteristics of the other person that I believed was something deeply grounded in the person, ie will never be able to adjust in a natural way. Either it is accepting it, or not entering into a serious relationship. It is as simple as that, to me. Maybe too rational again, but I think it prevented me from going into relationships that'll in the end make both of us unhappy most of the time.
Wish you a lot of Love around you... Wish you also some great days leading to the end of 2020 and to the start of the new year 2021 :)
Ahhh rationality, one of the topic on my waiting list to be written :) I will just say that rationality is relative and misunderstood; follow my txts and you.ll find out more some day ;D
Hahaha yeah, I did forget love for objects and services :P and shoes and bags, and cars, and motorbikes, and most important of all- money ;)
Your comment is sort of part of my txt, I wanted it to be not too long so I left out many things that would be examples or wider explanations. On this topic there is so much to be said. So at the end I.ve decided to edit it with few more sentences about selflove :)
Thank you, wish you the same. And I wish us not only good days at the beginning of NY but during all of it :D We will so need them...
I'll be following you since I like to read your perspective on this!
You are sooo right! Absolutely true. Hear Hear 😉