It is well known that grandparents are an extremely important part of their children's upbringing, especially if they have a diagnosis of autism..
Grandparents are the eternal accomplices of the grandchildren, because they see in them that second opportunity to be and fill those spaces that perhaps when they were young because of work they did not cover with their children, and this is a great opportunity full of time and experience..
There are important aspects so that grandparents can be a fundamental part of helping both the child and the parents..
The initial thing is that the grandparent knows the child well, his tastes, limitations, everything that alters him and can lead everyone to a somewhat irritated emotional state, so it is important to spend time observing and getting to know him.
When you detect it, get involved, be part of it, buy everything he likes and have it at home, games, colors, food, etc., so he will identify that being with his grandfather is a sign of well-being and enjoyment. All this at his own pace, let him decide how and when to do it..
You must learn to interpret their state of mind and their moments of isolation, in those moments when they move away and need that time to regulate themselves, respect their space, we all know this particularity that people with autism have, so let's help them to move away in those moments of regulation..
Routines are essential for the person with autism, if you are at home with the child, respect these established structures, do not disavow what the parents have established, every detail of the routine at home has a purpose, help him/her to fulfill it..
And if the child goes to your house, then establish routines so that he feels more comfortable when he arrives knowing that it is a safe and comfortable place for him..
It is difficult for many the verbal non-response of the child, it is often frustrating and painful, as is the child with a more extensive and unleashed verbiage, both cases you must necessarily be alert, if the child is nonverbal or little visual, insist, do not stop talking to him because he listens to you, and needs to know that he is part of someone, just as the opposite case, where the child does not stop talking, it is important that you devote your attention to listen and be part of the dialogue almost without a fluid feedback but always listen..
Grandfather, grandmother, you are important in your grandchild's life, be a part of it, but be a fundamental part, understanding and wisely complicit..