Sex education should be given early during puberty

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Welcome back to my blog. This is a blessed day for all of us. Let's start this life with lots of good deeds so that we can be happy in this world and the hereafter.

As humans age, they will show different personalities, changes in themselves, such as a stronger physical posture, a deeper voice, a deeper way of thinking, and genetic changes in the shape of the genitals and the growth of hair in sensitive areas. All of this is influenced by hormones and is a normal condition. This period is called puberty.

We have all experienced this period when we begin to feel attracted to the opposite sex, starting with their body shape and the changes that occur there. In our customs and religion, this is called baligh, meaning someone who has finished childbearing and is about to enter adolescence. This is marked by the onset of menstruation for women and wet dreams or dreams of intercourse for boys, around the ages of 10 to 15.

Now let's discuss when should sex education be taught to children to ensure they don't take the wrong steps? The answer is, we will begin teaching our children about sex when they reach puberty. We will regularly educate them about what sex is and its dangers if uncontrolled, and we teach them in our own way and language.

Islam has forbidden contact between a woman and a man who is not a mahram (a man) except through marriage. One way to have sexual intercourse is through marriage. So, it's very easy for us to teach our children about sex because everything is regulated and neatly structured in Islam. I personally have a special way of teaching my children about sex. First, I instill in my child the belief that he must truly obey Allah and believe that he is always under His supervision. Whatever he does and wherever he is, he is always watched by angels, and he will go to hell if he commits abominable and wrongful act prohibited by religion.

When my child reaches puberty, I simply pressure him to be more obedient to his Creator, Allah. He will naturally behave well in all aspects. After that, I provide medical education about the dangers of casual sex, such as the dangers of HIV and other sexually transmitted diseases. In other words, our area is still considered conducive and not prone to the influence of free sex because we generally implement Islamic law.

However, leaving them unsupervised without strict supervision can lead them to engage in bad behavior. It's very difficult to guide and control the younger generation these days because they know so much and have easy access to inappropriate websites. When I was little, it was very easy for our parents to forbid us and teach us about sex. We would feel very embarrassed and afraid when alone with the opposite sex, even if we weren't doing anything. The feelings of embarrassment and fear weren't due to anyone watching, but came naturally to me.

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As a normal human being, I found it very difficult to control puberty at that time. We had to busy ourselves with various activities like sports, playing, and studying. Minimizing time spent fantasizing about sexual pleasures, frequent prayer, and surrendering ourselves to God, the owner of all things, were effective ways to control our desires.

Without the internet and the lack of electronics, it was very easy for our parents to educate us, and sex education was only a fantasy; we never saw it. The naked female body, so the curiosity wasn't so intense, and there were no pornographic videos, so we could still control ourselves. This is a stark contrast to today. If we don't properly protect our children, they will be destroyed.

That's my post for today. See you in the next post.
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@yuliadi