The way that our brain process happiness is very complicated. I don't think anyone can really define the word happiness although the dictionary states the definition as follows:
Happiness is the state of being happy.
If you think about this definition, happiness is nothing but a feeling or rather an emotion that we experience. This feeling lasts only for a few minutes and then it's gone. It leaves us in a more relaxed state of mind, because when we are relaxed, we feel happier.
So what exactly makes us happy?
Some people might say that money will make them happy. I can assure you that money cannot buy happiness. It can however make us happy on certain occasions. If you are getting a fixed salary each month, on the same date, the money might not really excite you that much, but if you find a $100 in your jacket's pocket that you forgot about, that would make you extremely happy.
Our brains see happiness as a reward for something that was done successfully. It is a positive sensation that we experience when something good happened. Most people think that we should all constantly be on the search for happiness but that is totally unrealistic and definitely not how everyone's brains work.
The brain can adapt to many things. You can have a favorite dish that makes you feel very happy, but if you have to eat the same dish every day then your brain will no longer associate the favorite dish as a happy experience.
It is not easy to be happy all the time, and it is in fact impossible to be happy all the time. Our brains are too complex and variable. There is absolutely no quick fix solution to find happiness, even if you read all the self help books in the world.
Happy ending movies are so overrated and anyone who even expects that from any relationship is in for a surprise. Relationships take constant work. To be happy takes constant work.
Happiness is nothing more than a state of mind.