LOH #100: My view and Personal Opinions on Love and Technology.

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I know the title is way off the subject in question but when has anything ever been straightforward except for the bedroom? Get where I'm going with this?

The world is migrating...

Today, most people no longer care for the world around them as long as they have the world inside their gadgets. The virtual realm is now the place many seek comfort and validation. They want to be recognized by people from different races of life.

In a way, the sense of urgency that has been created by the socio-economic situation of the world plays a hard role in this. As of now, not only do you need a degree to get a good job, you need to be knowledgeable in one area of technology or the other.

With the way the world is moving and migrating finances, networks and relationships to the digital phase, it is no surprise that many would also look there to find love.

The effects of the counterfeit: engaging the less

Love is not a tangible thing and it has more than one face. In this time, where selfishness has climbed the hierarchy and pride has settled in the hearts of most people now, the littlest amount of attention and understanding can pass off as something else.

We hear many youths making emphasis on how they might never get married and others boldly declaring their motives for getting married - which is not always good. With the sting of rejection and the lack of love penetrating the hearts of upcoming men and women, it is now the norm "not to love".

As love is not something you can see or feel (love is not a feeling, it is a choice) or even touch, it is easy to get carried away by the cheapest things. Things that pass off as love but no where close. So how do we not fall prey to the scams of love? Because they do not only exist online but they are very much rampant even in the real world.

First understand love!

Some months ago, Nigeria lost an icon to a love scam. We wouldn't want this to repeat itself. For that not to happen, we need to let people understand what true love is. Once you have seen the characteristics of real love or experienced it, you can easily decipher counterfeit. So, let us identify some of the features of love.

Love is Patient

True love isn't easily agitated. When a person constantly puts pressure on you or always tries to make you feel bad about not doing something, it is a red flag. Once you begin to feel stressed or put under pressure (mostly by the person) to provide for them (someone who you barely know), it is a red flag.

Love is Kind and Self-Sacrificing

The person always seems to just take. They don't give. This is not only referring to online relationships. They always want you to do what they want and be there for them but they are almost never there for you. Not just in terms of materialistic things. Also emotionally. They are always so concentrated on selling their problems to you. Love doesn't do that. It seeks to ease burdens not multiply it.

Love does not boast, envy or ridicule

When you find yourself being intimidated or talked down by someone who claims to love you, it is not love. They engage you in unhealthy competition and strife. This doesn't only refer to romantic relationships but also friendships and family. Love doesn't intimidate, mock or taunt someone. It nurtures, cares and lifts people.

Love brings out the best in you and suffocates the worst

Love encourages to be the best you can be. It gives you the necessary tools to be better, e.g advice, motivation and emotional support. Love isn't just about butterflies in the belly, love is not lust or infatuation. Love is submission and sacrifice. It is putting others first, lifting them up and being there for them. Above all, Love is durable and never fades.

So when that person is making you smile and think, oh God oh God oh God, ask yourself, is it real? Do not be carried away by the littlest amount of attention and see it as love. Do not settle for less than you are worth.

As this world progresses and things get harder, people will begin to settle for easier things. Never let this be you. It would be a disaster.

I cordially invite @young-boss-karin and @nickydee to participate. Click here to read more about the contest.

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Thanks for the thoughts and tagging me.

This is a really relevant topic and I'm glad you invited me.

I'm in!

Nice one for pointing out the traits and behaviours of toxic relating styles.

It's very important people become educated as quickly as possible to protect themselves.

Men and women both, please!

There is an almost equal split - 50% both male and female who are emotionally and psychologically abused. But men talk about it less often due to the stigma.

Women are at a disadvantage due to our... well... I'll save it for the post you inadvertently just made happen.

Yes. I have come across men that suffer from extremely low self esteem because they met an unfortunate and miserable soul with a pretty face and big boobs😒I look forward to reading you. Have you made it already?

Thank you for looking forward to my offering :)

Not yet!

Quite hectic here at the moment with crazy loadshedding and it's a challenge to keep up! And have had some life admin to attend to.

I'll have it ready for Saturdays deadline for sure 👍

Haha. Mine's been getting hit with school work. Not as active on Hive. Final year and all. Looking forward to reading you

Wow! You're still in school and already busy here.

Nicely done! *salutes 😊

It's tough. Final year. But I have no doubt you've got this 💥

We will do it all. Because we can ❤️


It is great that you already have such well rounded ideas surrounding love at your age @Dreaaa! It’s always a pleasure to hear your wisdom 😁

Not at all😆I'm still getting burned but I know not to fall completely into blindness🤣

Hey getting burned is all part of the learning experience… but also if anyone breaks your heart, I’ll beat them up!! Fly over just for it 😂

Oh gosh. You're such a sweetheart😩. I can totally steal you away😩😩tell hubby to watch his back👀...hehehe🤣

I totally agree with you. Once you know what love actually is, ud be quick to differentiate it from infatuation and lust. Love is very beautiful. Although with the way the world is going now it’s already hard to find someone who’d genuinely love . It’s well, I enjoyed your post🥹. Thanks for sharing

I thank you very much for your comment and support! Haha. ❤️❤️We do need to be enlightened on this thing!

Very enlightened dear. Thank u too


Thanks for the invite. I'll give it a go


Once you have seen the characteristics of real love or experienced it, you can easily decipher counterfeit.

This sentence really means a lot and I really like your analysis. You are right, if we easily accept the unreal and very vague feeling online, we will very easily make mistakes in love. Thank you for your wonderful sharing.

I thank you so much for your wonderful comment. We sometimes make the mistake of letting anyone in. I hope we all get to experience true love. Thank you for your lovely comment!

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It's amazing how you approached the topic and I found myself nodding in agreement to your words. Guess love is misinterpreted by some, hence, they easily fall to romance scam.


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I thank you for taking the time to read. It means a lot to me!❤️

Pleasure !LADY :) Cheers to you and happy weekend!

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Sounds advice !