DEPRESSION: The first messenger of death. Be guided!
The world as we know it, is becoming really more about humans living their best lives in the glare of the world while they wallow in pain alone.
Is it too much for us to ask the world to see how pained we are and maybe help us find some respite, when it isn't too much to ask the world to see us when we are happy?
The hypocrisy and sycophancy is alarming and everyone is guilty of this.
In the eyes of the storm, one can use some support from loved ones and friends, but, as we know by now, the world is more concerned about the glam than the true state of things.
If you have a why to live, there certainly will be a strength to bear almost anything and go through life anyhow it twists and turns.
Depression is the first sign that shows how death is trailing you by no reason of your doing but through the failing mindset that just can't hold its own following the travails of life that gets too much at every turn.
DEPRESSION.
That dark gloomy space in the mind of a man that makes him see that there may just not be a reason to live anymore.
Depression is when an individual has "feelings of severe despondency and dejection and this can be caused by some underlying disease, mindset, mood, when feelings become excessive, all-consuming, and interfere with daily living."
The factors put together in the definition (paraphrased) talked about 'despondency and dejection' and we should take a look at them.
- Despondency is when a man has low spirits as a result of loss of hope or courage to do anything more.
The spirit being is the first factor that empowers what a man has done, is doing and will do, and if the spirit is not in sync with the state of the mind of the individual, he practically becomes non existent. - Dejection is also when a man is sad and is in a depressed state. There cannot be anything anyone can do when they fall into this drum. they just stay stuck until they try to fight their way back up.
The figure is alarming.
I am not really going to go into the whole medical history of what depression is or what it happens, but if you want to have a read, please see Depression, causes and more.
Depression is one major cause of death by suicide at the moment, and according to statistics, out of every 5 deaths recorded in the last 6 months, 3 is by suicide.
Read this to see a recent statistics of depression driven deaths in the United States.
The number keeps besting itself on a daily basis and no matter what anyone says, more and more people are falling into depression which also makes them suicide cases.
How much longer before it comes close to home?
I have had my share of depression and in 2013-2016, I fought it so much that, I had no idea I was ever going to survive it.
It didn't take some expert care or learning or reading or support for me to get out of it, it took my understanding that, I needed to create a "WHY should I live first," and then went on to see that if there is a WHY, there certainly will be a "HOW."
It was like asking google and I did ask google, "how can I be able to live without being depressed?" and as usual there are tons of answers that showed up.
Learning to understand that if there is WHY to live, there certainly will be a HOW will help you navigate through that slight dark phase. Life must never be too much for you!
Why is everyone in a hurry?
The man who speaks will surely find answers and the one who doesn't is definitely going to get lost.
We are all be doctors, counselors, psychiatrist, health and wellness coach, pastors, support system and lifeline to everyone around us.
The light beams brightest when it is dark and if we can just leave that light on inside our heads, we will be able to see that someone is in need of it.
The whole idea that, I am not my brother's keeper is one major cause of depression in the world today, because, everyone is in a hurrying trying to get nowhere.
Peer pressure accounts for 75% of depression in the life so people between the ages of 13 to 35. The more tricky and impossible to escape is the profiling of the lifestyle of everyone on these various social media platforms.
Social media drives more people into depression than the state of things.
The likes, the loves, the comments, the beautiful clothes and shoes, the number of followers and the 'accomplishments' being shared that just tells you you are not as successful as your friend.
I once read a story of how a 6-year-old battled with depression until he succumbed to it by hanging himself in his closet.
Shocking right? Really shocking and unbelievable.
Makes you wonder what could be so pressing that will make a 6-year-old to be depressed and then go on to understand that he can kill himself?
What to do.
Depression creeps in silently and it slowly builds up. it doesn't just start from nowhere, it is influenced by some actions, situation, mood, mindset, etc and anyone can be depressed, even the newly wed bride or the man who just won $100 Million in a lotto or the superstar musician who after putting out a stellar show decided it needed to end.
Trust God.
This is my first thought no matter what happens and I have found out that it works. You must have something or someone you trust and believe in and in my case, it is the Almighty God, father of our Lord Jesus Christ.
There is nothing that happens that isn't or can't be taken care of by and through the Word.
The situation we face in life today is as a result of men rebelling against what is and what should be n=because, they want to make the world see that they can be themselves.Learn to listen to people more than talking.
Everyone has something to say including the dumb. Not having time to hear someone out is the first step to allowing then fall off the deep end. You must try and let people speak.Seek first to understand.
Listening is the first step and when you listen, you don't just get the whole gist. You have to learn to seek first to understand what the person is talking about. There is not point in listening when you cannot take sometime to understand what they are saying.Don't seat on the fence.
You learn to empathize and not just listening. Put yourself in that persons shoes or even just try to imagine it was you trying to figure stuffs out like they are doing.
The process is not the same for two individuals even if they are heading to the same destination. Throwing in some laughs and words of encouragement can go a long way to help. You can even offer them some water or food just to try make their burden light.Don't judge.
We are used to judging people because, we feel their story is not that serious especially if we have had such in the past.
Don't be judgemental, it is true life is hard and also that people are struggling as well, but people are different and if you must help someone, don't judge.
I was once being counseled by someone when I was really in need some years back (big mistake) and I will never forget how that person made me feel when he reminded me that, "you are not the only one with challenges, life is hard and you should stop complaining." I left more depressed than I met him.
- Get help/share your pain and story.
I love this part because it works. You cannot spend time with positive people through life and not be impacted positively.
There are lots of self help groups that are dedicated to helping you find your way around your difficult moments and for depressed individuals, you can get through that period with the help of others who have survived depression or those going through the same process as you.
It helps to share because you never know who can help.
My PoV.
The first step to helping yourself or someone get out of depression and stopping them from taking their lives is through helping them understand that, there is more out there than is being presented and that they can change their bus stops.
**I think and strongly believe it is very okay to cry in public when you need to, that way, you get heard. **
We are used to put up some sorts of macho underlining effect that tells the world we are fine when in reality, we are not. Big boys cry and you should too!
Read more about depression and how it starts to soil the mind. Learn the ways to avoid falling into the ditch that is dug by despondency and dejection.
Healing is not for everyone and it will take only those with a mindset of wanting to be well to get healed.
I know quite a few of us have battled with depression at one time or the other and I think it will be a good thing to help someone heal by speaking out.
I have lost family and friends to this scourge and it was really painful. I sometimes wish I was there for them or just somehow knew what they were going through so I could share my story of victory.
Beating depression doesn't mean it stops, you need to keep working on yourself and make sure to fill up the empty spaces in your life with life-giving processes. Create a mental picture of the man who never says No.
There is a reason to living and it all makes sense when we get the results of our inputs into society. Life should never be too much for you, you can win it!
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Thanks for this post. It's really helpful. I've been there before and sure isn't funny. I hope everyone battling with this finds peace while still alive. Kudos🙂
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It is a good thing if we learn to talk so people experiencing the same issues can find some 'cheats' to overcome.
Glad you found a way around it and are doing well.
Stay Awesome!
Thank you😚
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