Standing out without fear.
Confidence needs to be the energy that everyone needs to run a race in a competitive world as ours. Needless to say that a person or low confidence is building a low Self-esteem as well. Our level of confidence determines the power to achieve a goal, an objective, and the reason we have come exists.
That is not to imply that overly confident is better, but à man, who's battles, worries, and fears have been solved.
Show me a man of confidence and high standards of self Esteem, and I would show you billions of those whose destiny has been destroyed by same their journey.
Some time few years a year ago, I was one who did have confidence in myself and that resulted in difference opinions about my Self-esteem. Which question my capacity to proper my life.
I became too handicapped by things I see around me, I thought I started feeling I am not match people around. Which result to mentally illusion of myself, all about me. I couldn't fight my fears then, which always conquer me.
This mostly happened when I was in my 18s I thought that many opposites sex wouldn't like me, I struggled to get connected to each one I had feelings for. This led into my 20s, I didn't know what to do about it.
I also feel that even though I am brilliant, intelligent and smart that that wasn't enough to match, anyone I have feelings for. This low Confidential lifestyle, budded a lot of low Self -Esteem in my life.
But one day I decided to break the bar, I said to myself, this is the 20s. I can't continue this way, even though it wasn't for any serious relationship. Living with such a mentality and low confidence in me would have coursed me some much emotional sage.
This is not a joke at all, so I decided to brood my first, date, it wasn't easy, while I stopped her by, and she managed to give me that audience. Of which I didn't know how to begin the conversation. I didn't allow it to happen again.
My mind stared painting like the ticking meter race bar, my thoughts began to tell me a different message, I noted immediately it was one of those low Confidential emotions.
But I had to say it, it didn't kill me, she accepted, but that didn't end the journey, some friends, some sets of people thought she wasn't my type. They got it right because no one would believe I would have such a confidence to approach the beautiful Dems.
People know me for Selfies low values, so their imagination and thoughts were all born out of that lime of story of my life. Taking ca walk around with her, was another school of thought, I need to graduate from to be able to stand her present.
But I did it forcefully, I gave myself a rehearsal, also rehearsing my line of words, attitudes, and behavior to always put up. This helped me a hole lot. Since then, no one could bitterly share the experience of low Confidence and Self-esteem more than I do.
And no one too would beat the courage I have now grown a man to have in anything I want to do. Think on my thoughts, rationalize my beliefs, method, and evaluation the hypothesis to which I should go after a thing, and when it is affirmed to me a moral, I do it.
I don't fear faces anymore, that helped me become a better public speaker. Before now, U don't think I would ever stand in the crowd of 50 and survive the tension that comes with it.
It was that bad, but after I broke up from the shackles of low Self Confidence and Self-esteem, I am now a good person. I represent my community youths in a town Hall meetings, stand out tall in my classroom- interpersonal and interpersonally activities with people improved exceptionally.
Speak boldly and respond to answers from my lectures and teachers without any prejudice or whatsoever, I became much stronger in any please I find myself.
Low Confidential life, it is too bad, this is what leads to low Self-esteem, and people who live this kind of life, most of them end up being hypocrites. Because they hardly stand out for themselves.
They allow other people's opinions to rule their subconsciousness, without knowing that, they are near their graveyards. Low Confidential habit, is same as death. It kills emotions, and silent the voice that should be heard.
I would rather not paint this article with a picture, that would make it seems one is advising here, but, it may have some atoms of it, now that I have to say, this:
- Don't allow the weak in you, kill the strong in you, else the strongest in you would have never been seen.*
This has been one of my favorite quotes, since I gained freedom, these quote come a minute I conquer my fear.
No wonder William Shakespeare titled one of his play she stopped to conquer.
Read books, that energized the minds, pay attention to valuable speakers and those who would not talk down on you. Listen to podcasts that are done by men and women who have had an experience in life, all these were my building foundations before I was able to pull out.
People with low Self Confidence are people with great ideas, power of right mind thinking, take my life story where it is similar to your case, and buy ideas from my work.
If the world is as competitive as this, and we are a hundred and one 70% have Self confidence while 30% isn't then the world us not a better place. Ideas come from what you bring to the table, tell yourself you have what it takes and can give it out.
Don't allow that little things that caught your fears be the reason you are giving up, you want to end trying your capacity.
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