THE 30-MINUTE RESET: LESSONS FROM MY OLDER BROTHER

Anger is an emotion that arises from displeasure or annoyance when someone is upset by the actions of another or the outcome of an event. One is said to be angry. The trigger for this anger varies from person to person; some are easily annoyed by others' actions or the results of events, while others find it hard to become angry very quickly. Sometimes, it depends on how one chooses to tolerate others, which influences how quickly or easily one becomes angry with someone. The rate at which we become angry with people largely differs and is mostly determined by how much we value these individuals in our lives.

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I used to get angry very easily, and it was always expressed on my face. When I am angry, it is usually very visible to the other person. I don’t usually like to be stressed or disturbed or to be disrespected. Most of the time, I get angry, and I raise my voice so that everybody will hear us. Coming to the realisation that being angry is not a good thing and having read how the Bible writes against people who are quick to anger, I have learnt to suppress my feelings. I will rarely get angry these days; instead of being angry, I get sad instead, and once I give it a little time, the feelings pass by. This doesn’t mean that I wouldn’t address the event or occurrence that took place; it only means that at the time I confront the person, I will no longer be angry with the person.

One thing I learnt from my older brother while we were growing up was how to never keep malice. My brother and I will always fight, and usually I will be furious with him, but once my brother goes out of the house and comes back, he acts as though nothing had happened earlier; he will talk and play with me as though we had not been fighting before he left the house. Sometimes, he might even come back with something for me. I have never stayed angry with my brother for up to thirty minutes, and because of this, whenever I hear that my brother was fighting outside or some elderly person was beating my elder brother, I just run to join in to support my brother, not asking what had happened or who was at fault.

Because of the lesson I learnt from my elder brother, I try as much as I can to always settle every dispute and misunderstanding, I have with anyone immediately, so long as the person is ready to settle. Although I sometimes get angry easily, I find it difficult to remain mad or angry at a person for a long period of time. Whenever I find myself in a serious disagreement, I try as much as I can to settle with the person before the next day.

"One thing we ought to know and understand is that being angry with another person only hurts us and not the other person; it steals our peace and keeps us in a bad mood."

Thank you for reading. My name is@rishagamo, and this is my response to the Hive Learners weekly Featured Content Week 210 Episode 02: “ANGRY AND MAD”.