Did I say I did? Kindly show me. Again you seem to be looking for an escape hatch.
Why do you twist and turn and look for any corner to scurry into to try to nitpick and escape?
What is wrong with looking at the entirety of something?
EDIT: Some might call it cognitive dissonance. To me I suspect it is just a bad habit. Deflection. Looking for any reason to say "See... look here... look at this one thing... no ignore everything else... let's just point over here in this corner..."
i only have your words, as do other readers. i'm certain you use those words on purpose. you seem very careful. but if asked about them, you say otherwise, and accuse me of trying to manipulate you or run away.
i very much liked most of this article and i wanted to ruminate on it a bit, and the EDIT at the end with the offhand comments about guns left a sour taste in my mouth, along with the meme. you made those choices.
I would have loved to have heard your thoughts about the article.
Instead you wanted to me to focus on the Pulse Night Club. You asked specific things. I actually searched for you showing you how I searched. You then responded to the search dismissing the one thing I found. I searched again.
At that point you switched and focused on another thing.
I spoke on that.
Then you decided to indicate that I was trusting the statistics after I said I don't trust anyone completely.
You jumped from one little thing to nit pick to another. You deflected.
I do think you may have enjoyed the article. I'd actually welcome your ruminations.
I simply don't welcome people looking for escape hatches and focusing on certain things and ignoring the rest.
I took your approach at first as being honest and not doing that. I only noticed the pattern after you kept doing it.
Now I do see you THINKING here. I do think what you say is honestly what you think. I do not think you are lying.
I just don't think you see what I am pointing out yet.
I think you will...
So now I'll do what I have told people. When I am implying something I will state that I am. I am about to imply something.
Enjoy the seeds, may they grow interesting things.
EDIT at the end with the offhand comments about guns left a sour taste in my mouth,
This makes sense. I could see you engaging as such. Yet I stand by those words. If the truth leaves a sour taste then hopefully you acquire a taste for sour things.
Perhaps they were not offhand at all. Have you stopped to think how they might be relevant to the rest of the article?
I will offer you an apology on one front. I realize I am being rather harsh. I can tell you I don't enjoy it.
I am just done tip toeing. Things get worse when we try too hard not to offend, to be soft, etc.
I know it sucks. It does for me too.
I can tell you I wouldn't bother at all if I didn't care.
I don't like trolls. I consider it a waste of my time.
If I didn't think it was worth it I wouldn't talk to you the way I am.
I do not think I am superior to you. I don't think I am more intelligent than you. I am simply different than you. This is a good thing. It'd be a very bad thing if you were ME.
Be you. I also can tell you have a strong mind.
I pointed out that habit because I care. I have my share of problems. I have to watch them. I am sure I have other problems I haven't even noticed.
I am not trying to be egotistical. I am not trying to be condescending.
I simply know of no way to tell you what I am trying to tell you that can avoid appearing as some of those things.
Could I be wrong about what I am thinking? Absolutely.
Am I making some assumptions? Of course. All of us do. Life is largely based upon probabilities and how we judge them and make decisions.
Can an assumption make an Ass out of U and ME... yes. Yet that is a nice platitude. Platitudes are not always correct. They are just fun to say and make people think.
Actually I am going to apologize to you. I do think I got a little too "cocky" in my response to you. I even think some of my responses were condescending. That was not my intention.
I can't justify it. I suspect it may be because I am trying to do too many different things today at once and I rushed my response.
That is no excuse. It is simply me trying to think about it. I do apologize for that. You don't deserve everything I said to you.
Thanks for hanging in there with me anyway. That says something. I'm actually a little impressed. :)
You've got a bad habit. You are not alone. You are using pretty common tactics I see a lot these days. If you want to keep pounding on me I'll try to help you break it.
I am not expecting you to agree with me. That is not the bad habit. The bad habit is you frantically looking for any little detail you can latch onto, be it a word, a phrase, anything you can say "see... do you see it" while you ignore ALL of the other things that are required for the true context.
You seek to destroy by pointing out things that by themselves you can frame as a negative. This only works by ignoring everything else.
It is disingenuous and it is pretty effective when used against most people. It is not effective when people have become aware of it.
I've got your number with this technique. If you want to talk about the whole then we might get somewhere.
If you keep wanting to look for justification for why I might be wrong... you'll always be able to find that.
Would it help you if I intentionally start misspelling things? Would you see it then?
At this point I am not trying to attack you at all. I truly want you to stop using this tactic. It is destructive. There is absolutely nothing constructive in the sense of actual communication about the technique.
Look at things in context. CHOOSE to try to understand what a person is trying to say rather than CHOOSING to find things you can dissect and attack.
For the record. I can plainly see you are not stupid. I am not trying to imply that.
I do see by what you are choosing to focus on that the habit I am referring to is there. Especially as I watch you bob and weave from one thing to another while ignoring everything else.
Did I say I did? Kindly show me. Again you seem to be looking for an escape hatch.
Why do you twist and turn and look for any corner to scurry into to try to nitpick and escape?
What is wrong with looking at the entirety of something?
EDIT: Some might call it cognitive dissonance. To me I suspect it is just a bad habit. Deflection. Looking for any reason to say "See... look here... look at this one thing... no ignore everything else... let's just point over here in this corner..."
i only have your words, as do other readers. i'm certain you use those words on purpose. you seem very careful. but if asked about them, you say otherwise, and accuse me of trying to manipulate you or run away.
i very much liked most of this article and i wanted to ruminate on it a bit, and the EDIT at the end with the offhand comments about guns left a sour taste in my mouth, along with the meme. you made those choices.
I would have loved to have heard your thoughts about the article.
Instead you wanted to me to focus on the Pulse Night Club. You asked specific things. I actually searched for you showing you how I searched. You then responded to the search dismissing the one thing I found. I searched again.
At that point you switched and focused on another thing.
I spoke on that.
Then you decided to indicate that I was trusting the statistics after I said I don't trust anyone completely.
You jumped from one little thing to nit pick to another. You deflected.
I do think you may have enjoyed the article. I'd actually welcome your ruminations.
I simply don't welcome people looking for escape hatches and focusing on certain things and ignoring the rest.
I took your approach at first as being honest and not doing that. I only noticed the pattern after you kept doing it.
Now I do see you THINKING here. I do think what you say is honestly what you think. I do not think you are lying.
I just don't think you see what I am pointing out yet.
I think you will...
So now I'll do what I have told people. When I am implying something I will state that I am. I am about to imply something.
Enjoy the seeds, may they grow interesting things.
This makes sense. I could see you engaging as such. Yet I stand by those words. If the truth leaves a sour taste then hopefully you acquire a taste for sour things.
Perhaps they were not offhand at all. Have you stopped to think how they might be relevant to the rest of the article?
I will offer you an apology on one front. I realize I am being rather harsh. I can tell you I don't enjoy it.
I am just done tip toeing. Things get worse when we try too hard not to offend, to be soft, etc.
I know it sucks. It does for me too.
I can tell you I wouldn't bother at all if I didn't care.
I don't like trolls. I consider it a waste of my time.
If I didn't think it was worth it I wouldn't talk to you the way I am.
I do not think I am superior to you. I don't think I am more intelligent than you. I am simply different than you. This is a good thing. It'd be a very bad thing if you were ME.
Be you. I also can tell you have a strong mind.
I pointed out that habit because I care. I have my share of problems. I have to watch them. I am sure I have other problems I haven't even noticed.
I am not trying to be egotistical. I am not trying to be condescending.
I simply know of no way to tell you what I am trying to tell you that can avoid appearing as some of those things.
Could I be wrong about what I am thinking? Absolutely.
Am I making some assumptions? Of course. All of us do. Life is largely based upon probabilities and how we judge them and make decisions.
Can an assumption make an Ass out of U and ME... yes. Yet that is a nice platitude. Platitudes are not always correct. They are just fun to say and make people think.
Actually I am going to apologize to you. I do think I got a little too "cocky" in my response to you. I even think some of my responses were condescending. That was not my intention.
I can't justify it. I suspect it may be because I am trying to do too many different things today at once and I rushed my response.
That is no excuse. It is simply me trying to think about it. I do apologize for that. You don't deserve everything I said to you.
Thanks for hanging in there with me anyway. That says something. I'm actually a little impressed. :)
Here is my apology:
https://peakd.com/blog/@dwinblood/example-of-how-not-to-handle-a-conversation-i-was-an-ass
If you have a zit should I just talk about that or should I pay attention to what you are talking about and who you are?
You've got a bad habit. You are not alone. You are using pretty common tactics I see a lot these days. If you want to keep pounding on me I'll try to help you break it.
I am not expecting you to agree with me. That is not the bad habit. The bad habit is you frantically looking for any little detail you can latch onto, be it a word, a phrase, anything you can say "see... do you see it" while you ignore ALL of the other things that are required for the true context.
You seek to destroy by pointing out things that by themselves you can frame as a negative. This only works by ignoring everything else.
It is disingenuous and it is pretty effective when used against most people. It is not effective when people have become aware of it.
I've got your number with this technique. If you want to talk about the whole then we might get somewhere.
If you keep wanting to look for justification for why I might be wrong... you'll always be able to find that.
Would it help you if I intentionally start misspelling things? Would you see it then?
At this point I am not trying to attack you at all. I truly want you to stop using this tactic. It is destructive. There is absolutely nothing constructive in the sense of actual communication about the technique.
Look at things in context. CHOOSE to try to understand what a person is trying to say rather than CHOOSING to find things you can dissect and attack.
For the record. I can plainly see you are not stupid. I am not trying to imply that.
I do see by what you are choosing to focus on that the habit I am referring to is there. Especially as I watch you bob and weave from one thing to another while ignoring everything else.