What would my marriage base on?

10 months ago (Edited)

It is what really determines the outcome?

The brand of marriage we decided to celebrate to mark the beginning that one has started building a family does not mean that the married is going to or would last.

It is just a celebration to mark a memory and make a reminder in the minds of our loved ones, friends, and family.

Which would bring me to the weekly prompt discussion, what kind of marriage would I prefer?

I will prefer Africa traditional marriage. It is a celebration of the real culture of who I am and represents the way of my life.

My people and the kind of institutions I am going to build.

Married is an institution and this institution has their beliefs, culture, practices, and way of life. That helps to build their understanding of what marriage is.

The reason I believe that traditional marriage is a good ceremony to set for, is because it split to the kind of institution I want to set up.

I am an African, this doesn't mean that my perception of Africa life would improve my home or make it perfect. But it begins from the inside to build an outside.

It is preferable to build, a ceremony that can tell your story, your pride, and allow you show to the world the heritage, and true uniqueness of your martial culture.

Because it is just a celebration, that which would be remarkable for years and what people would want to see in this celebration.

It is its beauty and how it tells your true life and heritage stories to the world.

That outside, there are too many advantages to building a marriage ceremony around your beliefs, culture, and perception of your ways.

One of it is self-esteem, building or setting a marriage celebration in a way it tells your story allows people to respect and honor your culture and self-esteem.

It brings people together to see and share values of your belief, rites, and customers that make up such an institution you want to build.

For example, if I would like to marry, a woman from my place from or another continent, and I am from Africa, I would do it in the African way.

Because she is being married to come and stay in Africa. Even though we may not be living in Africa, but the idea is that she is an African and must honor to be honored!

A man is the one marrying a woman. Not a woman marrying a man in Africa. The reason I say so is that people would say the culture of both partners should be respected too.

A woman's respect when it comes to marriage ceremony and type is when her pride price has been legally paid according to her custom and tradition by the groomed to her people.

Which markets that she is legally married and by all rites performed to her people, friends and well-wishers.

The nature of celebration now solely depends on the couples, solely the man.

To decide the kind of marriage celebration that would tell the story of the kind of institution he wants to build, in my case and as it is done in any case of belief.

Because the celebration or type is just a mere formality to gather people together.

The real insurance and assurance of the pillars of the marriage is in the hands of both couples.

Which takes me to what I call the four formats of marriage institution.

Who
Why
Where
What

Who I consider my partner who I am getting married to, we decided, who we would become in the marriage.

And not what we did or the kind of party that we throw around, that decides if we're going to make a better home.

The point I want to make is that marriage is an institution and every institution has it own unique values

In the values of that premise, I hold my points of debate on this prompt.

That If I am to legally advocate for anyone, it should be a marriage. The man should display the true beauty of the culture, he is intending to spend his money on, and the value it holds.

I would like to display to the world my true identity, in the society, my culture, that is why you should choose wisely.

That doesn't mean it decides whether the marriage would be good or not.

Why I want to marry is greater than the celebration and type of ceremony I decide to throw, and I would make it clear in the case it calls for explanations with my partner.

Where I decide to do, my marriage must symbolize the type of marriage and meet the standard of that culture.

What purpose I am marrying these five format would answer to my purpose of why I want to marry and not the kind of ceremony we exposed our marriage to.