RE: Death - a Fallacy or not?
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Oh, my dear friend @lizelle , I am so moved by this post, my tears are streaming down my face, I can't believe you had a brother who ended his own life, nothing in this world can prepare you for such a loss. My heart is breaking for you. I don't know what to say.
My first son went through a terrible divorce. He lost his two daughters, his home, and his job because of his inability to stop loving his wife. He could not accept the fact that she wanted him out of her life, as well as his daughters.
I worry every day that he will end it all. He is depressed and lonely, I try my best to help him heal, but all he says is, I am fine Mom.
I feel your pain. I pray for your healing as well as my own.
Life sucks sometimes but I do my best to put one foot in front of the other.
I cry for you and myself, I am so afraid to lose my hubby before me. I don't think I can last very long if he goes first.
Show me the way, you are a remarkable woman.
Sorry if I made you sad but your post has touched my soul.
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My sweet Robin, it's quite uncanny how similar our lives have been, in a way. You've been through deep waters for many years, first with your sister's debilitating accident, being on duty that fateful and tragic night. Then having to be there for her and then finally take care of her in the end.
That alone must have taken its toll!
Then the loss of your brother recently.
I can just imagine your deep concern about your son.
Not wanting to alarm you, but that's what happened with my brother. He had 2 beautiful young daughters.
The little boy I spoke of is his grandson that he never met. He desperately wanted to see them, but the father-in-law cruelly refused him access.
All I can say is to speak to your daughter in law and ask her to give him regular access, even if it has to be at your home, or under your supervision if they don't live too far. It's cruel not to let a father see his children.
Encourage him to get medical help as it's obviously been a massive blow.
What my brother did to himself changed our lives, Mom especially, who never got over it, although she eventually learnt to live with it.
I went into a deep depression for many years, fortunately climbed my way out of that deep dark pit.
My brother did that act the night after my youngest son's birthday party, was hoping his girls would be there.
My same son was the victim of school bullying, was/is kind-hearted and full of compassion, talented, and a handsome young man. The ideal target for bullies. He's been receiving treatment for depression for years, and has had many ups and downs, but has become a strong young man and is more positive about the future.
He lost a very close friend to suicide, a beautiful young girl whose psychologist told him after one of her attempts, that his support and friendship saved her life many a time. He was in a bad way after that, landed up in hospital and we feared that he would do the same. But thankfully he bounced back and eventually met a girl just before Arthur passed away.
My friend, I feel your fear and deep concern, but don't let that take out the lustre of life, make the best of each day, and don't look too far ahead. The two of you literally spent a lifetime together❤
One somehow finds the strength and relearn enjoying life as a 'solo traveler'. I listen to a lot of music while I'm working on the computer, and even though I desperately want him by my side, I know he's been spared the indignity of having to rely on others, and having to face losing me. I want that physical presence, but see and experience little things that tell me he is watching out for me.
Praying for you, your son and all your family.
Sorry for the long response 💞