Life Beyond Disappointment!
I have lost count of how many times life has disappointed me but I have never let it define who I am, I have never lived in that space for too long. I can take lessons from them yes...grow from them and keep moving—once the lessons have been learnt, what's the point in getting stuck?
They have made me stronger and wiser, all the setbacks I've ever faced. So moving on and learning from pain has been my greatest strength.
However the biggest disappointment in my life was, and still remains my failure in marriage.
When it was very obvious to every Tom, Dick and Harry that my marriage was falling apart, I did everything humanly possible to stop the demise from happening. I loved him. I wanted to fix things with him more than I wanted anything in the world. I tried letting him know of my desire to work through the issues we were having. I pleaded with him to fight for what we had built together.
Finally, I told him that the marriage was dying, Please fix it with me because I love you and want to be with you.
He said nothing, did nothing. He just let it all slip away, and did nothing to try to save it, not even for our children's sake. After everything we had been through together, he did nothing to fight for us, to fight for me. To fight for the kids.
He had checked out of the relationship before I ever did!
No disappointment has ever cut as deep as this, none has hurt me as profoundly as this.
I have never claimed to be blameless in the breakup.
It takes two to tango, they say
But as much as he hurt me, I have always resisted the urge to place all of the blame on him. Perhaps I, too, played a role in bringing to the fore, the worst in him—maybe I did something, unknowingly, that awakened the beast in him. After all, we can only act based on the knowledge we have at any given moment. If we had known better, we might have made different choices.
But what truly matters now is that I have moved on. I have learned the lessons I needed to learn. And I have chosen to move forward.
I will never allow disappointments to define me. Only I have the power to decide what shapes my story.
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I am @edith-4angelseu and thank you for stopping by my neighbourhood.
So sorry about the failure of your marriage, at least you tried to make things work. But I'm glad you've moved on!
Good resilience.
I bookmarked a quote in my college days- ANY EXPERIENCE THAT DOES NOT KILL ME MAKES ME STRONGER.
If I could rephrase it.......ANY DISAPPOINTMENT THAT DOES NOT HURT ME MAKES ME STRONGER.
Sorry to hear that. I dont know why in our state also there is a spike in failed marriages cases, more divorces are being filed. Marriage as an institution is central to our generational and civilizational ethos.
I can understand your pain. Family is the last nest for humans to seek solace, and that should not break apart.
I empathize with you.
Thank you.