RE: What’s Happened to Our Communication?
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Ciao @crosheille ! Many thanks for this great post! Yes, it can be complex, our reasons for not phoning!
I loved having a landline when I first bought my Italian home, BUT was inundated daily with calls from a telephone company that I wasn't with. It drove me potty. Because I had a lot of media attention in my first years here, all the calls I got were folks wanting something from me. I eventually cut it off.
My phone is a similar issue: Italy has zero controls over privacy on phones (or anywhere else, it sometimes feels!), and the 'presumption of the right to trespass' is strong. I have maximum controls on my phone, and do not use Google, so do not retain a list of contacts. I use Signal App for close friends and family, and pretty much ignore any other calls. No-one else should have my number, and if they do, I do not consent to being phoned and interrupting the magic of my day and especially my creative work. If I am awake, I am working creatively: there are few that I would allow to interrupt this precious alignment.
I did a lot of research into private phones in Italy, and it seems you literally cannot get one, but ultimately, I don't really need a phone, as I use the App for most calls: I way prefer voice messaging (I don't use texting much, neither do friends): I share lengthy conversations with a select group of around 20 friends, around the world, and we are able to speak to all subjects, off-load, talk about our fears and challenges. It is definitely a different way of being than when phones were a staple in a house, and I miss that clear line and connection of the landline!! But it is much more suitable for me to receive a call when I am not e.g. painting, sewing a difficult piece of fabric, plastering a wall or cementing a floor, down in the garden (I rarely take my phone out of the house), or out for shopping... My life is one filled with working with my hands, and having to interrupt my work for a call is not an option!
Great conversation!!
Thank you so much for adding your input.
My parents still have a landline and they are constantly ignoring calls for marketing and scammers. It gets irritating to them as well but they don’t want to get rid of their line. They even try to tell them to take them off their call list but of course the calls keep coming in from different companies.
That stinks about the privacy factor. It’s sad that they make people not even want a phone because they go overboard.
I am very familiar with the Signal App as I have used it before. My husband learned about it and loved it because it was private and no one could trace your info. Recently he heard about some changes with it and felt it wasn’t fully private anymore.
I think it’s great that you choose to live your day as you like and not allow certain interruptions that will throw off your creative schedule. I also think it’s great that you’ve found a more convenient way to conversate with your friends. I just think it’s so important we get back to these real conversations and really get back to building relationships and loving on one another. We need connection not separation. Sadly, the way the world is going we seem to be getting farther and farther away from each other.
Thanks again for joining the conversation ~ 💖