CONNECTED YET VERY DISCONNECTED

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Hello people!
I had wanted to share this earlier but I kept stalling. Thankfully, this topic was given. What better time to speak on this than now. This may not be what you're expecting but, here goes;

So, my big brother just resumed working at this company where people can hire online friends and companions. He works remotely. All he does is be that friend you may never get to see offline. Surprising right?

The company comprises real humans functioning like AI. Where you can hire someone you could talk to if you're lonely or you need to vent. For the most part, all they do is listen.

In all of this goodness, i just realized how disconnected we have become from the real world. The physical world. Like how did offering listening ears or being there for someone get to this point of being a job. Like, what happened to friends? To family? To loved ones? To people around? We've come too far. We've brought harm to ourselves. Or what do you think?

We've used, "do you the world will adjust" to become inconsiderate to our differences.

We've used, "take it or leave it but this is who I am" to promote intolerance .

Or is it, " I am an introvert" to disconnect from people.

We're so scared of being vunerable which is understandable.

Now, we're obviously a growing, lonely generation.
We now see one another as snitches. As untrustworthy. We'll rather talk to total strangers in the computer about our lives than reconcile and create beautiful bonds with family and friends which will serve as memories in time to come.

How did we get to this place where we pay for virtual friends and seek the attention of internet strangers yet reject real people? Just how? We ridicule loyalty and laugh at those who fight for relationships. Isn't it pathetic?

I'm very surprised that they have as much clients as they do. My bro. says there are millions of them(the clients) and there's always traffic on the site. I told my brother him I think he'll break down soon because of how tasking and time consuming the job seems(with little time for sleep and rest). Do you know that for his first month on the job, he was given a target of 4,000 messages to attend to. Just as a trainee. Not a full-time employee yet.
I do not know the name of the company/app . He only disclosed the nature of the job and I did not probe further.

You may say, 'Well, when humans fail, isn't it better to stay be yourself?'
But, are you currently hanging out with animals? Are humans always right? Do you not also fail others sometimes?
Even if you isolate from those who hurt you, you'll still have to associate with other humans. And humans are humans everywhere. There's no perfect human anywhere. Your friend may be someone's enemy and your enemy, someone's best friend.

You might say, "They won't disclose your secrets and even if they do, it wouldn't be to people you know"
And frankly, this our mentality is exactly what is leading us astray. Imagine not talking to people and people not talking to you. And before you say, 'Its a normal thing. No big deal!', imagine your partner choosing to speak to an absolute stranger about their pains, work, relationship issues(which they should be speaking to you about), their plans, etc. Just imagine.

Your kids talk about their daily experiences, their joys and hurts, peers and peer pressure to everyone, even a total stranger but yourself. How about that?

Your friends and loved ones confide in people who they have no connection with. What then is now the essence of friendship and relationships.
Let's not even speak on how businesses will also suffer for lack of trust.
How bland can it be?
How bad can it get?

We need to start promoting selflessness, trust, soft words, kind corrections and also shun distancing.

It's no wonder we brand people bad even before ever speaking with them because someone else says so. We're so disconnected from each other. So scared of opening up because of fear of being mocked. We boast of being without friends and never needing any like we should be given an Oscar for it.
No matter how self-sufficient one is, he'll someday need a shoulder. Besides,

If you don't need people when you're alive, when you die, your body will need people to bury it.

We say we prefer to deal with loneliness and depression than people. That people have hurt us so bad in the past and we never want a reoccurrence
That family members are just, unaccommodating, emotional blackmailers and very toxic.

But then, isn't this how toxic generations are formed and the lifestyle passed down? If we continue like this because we have toxic families, wouldn't we just be repeating the same mistake when/if we become parents?

See, It is saddening to see that our family and friends are sometimes our triggers and though it is best to steer clear of whatever affects our mental health, we seek happiness outside. But, not all bridges need to be burnt.
Sometimes, people don't understand unless you show them. Haven't we always said we prefer practicals to theory. Aren't movies best watched then narrated?

It is sad that instead of us to communicate, we would rather distance ourselves. We put so much unnecessary pressure on ourselves. The mental health of so many is very unstable. Everything is now a red flag. Social media is the validator.

Remember the social media blackout/shutdown which occured a few weeks back? How did you feel?. I know so many persons who were restless and crying even. It wasn't even about their online businesses. It was very much personal.

I am very afraid that if the internet goes down(which may likely never happen), the loneliness and depression will cut deep.
See! Talking to strangers who may never judge you isnt bad and I know you think you have made real connections online, but, when the chips are down, who would be there for you?

This may not sit well with you. You might have your own sentiments. I respect them and I do not mind you sharing them with me.

And please,! This post isn't about me criticizing the trade. In fact, whoever came up with this initiative is a genius and I give it to them. Rather, this post is about how connected we are online yet, we are so disconnected in reality.

I sincerely hope this is worth your 15 minutes.

Thank you for stopping by.
Greetings!